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Saturday, July 12th, 2008
7:57 pm
Nothing new
I haven't posted here in a LONG time!   That is because I haven't dated anyone new.  I got fed up with the pig men I was meeting, so I deleted my profiles off the 3 dating sites I was using.  I know that doesn't leave me with much to write about in this community I started, but I would still like others to share their stories.

I do have a couple stories from last year that I haven't shared yet.  I will post them soon.
Monday, February 19th, 2007
8:57 pm
I'm on a roll

I am on a quest.  A quest to find a guy that has a personality.  A guy that has a sense of humor.  A guy that calls me back.....LOL.

So, here I go again.  After the Bob fiasco (see below), I jumped right back into the dating scene....a feat that even my therapist was impressed with. 

I had gotten a "smile" from a man on BBWDatefinder, my usual spot.  This wasn't the first time he had contacted me.  A few months back, he sent me a smile, but I didn't respond to it.  I must have been in my "men are not worth it right now" mode.  He just didn't seem interesting enough for me at the time.

Fast forward to a couple weeks ago.  This time, I returned the smile.  Why this time?  I figured "why not"....ya never know.  We exchanged Yahoo Messenger screen names and started chatting online.  I then gave him my phone number, and he called me on my way home from Tucson on Superbowl Sunday.  We talked almost every day for about a week or so, then he brought up meeting.  I agreed.  We met at Native New Yorker last Tuesday (the day before Valentine's Day).  He got there before me and was at the bar.  I could tell when I walked in by the look on his face when he saw me that I was not what he expected.  I'm not sure what he expected, but I never mislead him.  Jesus....I'm on a BBW dating website, and I listed my weight as "heavy".  That's the biggest category they have.  If they would've had "obese", I would've chosen that....LOL.

So, anyway, I am rambling.  Who knows if it was my weight or something that just crawled up his ass....but I haven't heard squat from him since that night.  Even though he was less than thrilling to talk to, it was refreshing to chat online and talk on the phone to a guy without them trying to lead everything into cybersex or phone sex.  But I left the restaurant with a bad feeling.  Honestly, I can't say for sure it was my weight that bothered him.  I think it might have had more to do with me looking strikingly similar to his ex-wife.....who's first name is the same as my middle name.  Creepy.

Here is what's left of Justin's (or should I say Giustino's) profile.  For some reason, he deleted his text and pictures the week we started talking:


Gender:  Straight Man
Status:  Single - Divorced
  Age / Ethnicity:  37, White / Caucasian
Location:  Phoenix, Arizona
Region:  US-Southwest
Seeking:  A Long-term Relationship
Lives:  I Live with More Than One Roommate
Looks:  Some Find Me Attractive
Hair / Eyes:  Brown / Brown
Body:  Average
Height:  Average
Smoking:  I Don't Smoke
Drinking:  I Drink Socially / Occasionally
Religion:  Catholic
Education:  High School Graduate
Children:  I Want Children Someday


And what did I end up doing on Valentine's Day?  An impromptu meeting at Coldstone for some ice cream with a total stranger.  I will save that story for another time....



Monday, January 29th, 2007
11:21 am
Oh, ladies....this one takes the cake.  His name is Bob, and I found his profile on BBWdatefinder.com just recently.  I contacted him because he seemed to be looking for a relationship.  

I've been through a lot in the last year, and I've recently decided I'd like the same man in my life for more than just a couple weeks....and I don't mean just for sex.  Bob seemed like a good start.

Good lord, was I wrong!  Here's the story:

We exchanged a couple emails.  We agreed to go out on a date.  We met at the movies, then went for coffee afterwards.  He walked me to my car.  We kissed.  He asked if I wanted to come back to his apartment.  I said no.  

The next day he needed a ride to pick up his old car at a car dealership on the other side of the city (he had bought a new vehicle, and left his old one there).  I picked him up, drove him there, we had dinner, he paid and also gave me gas money.  Once again, he invited me back to his apartment.  Once again, I said no.

Third time I saw him, I did break down and went to his apartment.  We watched a movie and messed around.  I told him I had no intentions of jumping into sex though.  I said he'd have to wait.

Fourth (and last) time.  Here's the abbreviated version.  I went to his apartment.  He wanted a bj.  I said no.  He asked why.  I said because I didn't want to.  He said "I thought you were ready for this, but I guess you're not".  I responded "are you serious?!?!".  He told me to leave.  I shit you not.


Gender:  Straight Man
Status:  Single - Divorced
  Age / Ethnicity:  36, White / Caucasian
Location:  Phoenix, Arizona
Region:  US-Southwest
Seeking:  A Long-term Relationship
Lives:  I Live Alone
Looks:  Average
Hair / Eyes:  Brown / Brown
Body:  Just A Few Extra Pounds
Height:  Average
Smoking:  I Don't Smoke
Drinking:  I Drink Socially / Occasionally
Religion:  Christian
Education:  Bachelors Degree
Children:  I Have Children - Not Living with Me

In My Own Words...
Hello...I am looking for the lady who truly makes me feel complete. The one who is always on my mind and I on hers. One who knows what the words committment and relationship are. A lady who I can call just to say goodnight or tell her how much I miss her.

I have found that ladies are looking for a relationship, but when it comes down to it, they are really not looking for one. Maybe I'm wrong..I hope I am...There has to be one lady out there that truly wants a relationship and knows what it takes to establish a meaningful one.

As for me, I'm 5'9" and have a little boy that means the world to me. I'm educated, good income and responsible. So if you are interested or would like to see a picture, message me and I'll get back to you. I am a member, so if you wink, I can respond.

Bye for now

Bob, what is your definition of a relationship?  A girl you can count on to come over and give you a BJ whenever you want?!?!  Get real!  If I wanted a fuck buddy, I have plenty of WAY hotter guys to choose from!
10:13 am
Alfonso is from BBWdatefinder.com.  I'm sure he's on other dating websites as well.  He seems to delete profiles and create new ones every few months, but his screen name usually has "bueno" in it somewhere.

When I started talking to him in December 2005,  his profile sounded nice.  It sounded like he was looking for someone to date....but he wasn't.  He's looking for "friends with benefits".  Don't let anything in his profile fool you.  He's looking for someone to hang out with (most likely at YOUR place, since he has roommates) and fool around with.  And he's an exhibitionist:  he likes women to watch him do "things"....I'll leave the rest to your imagination.

If you're looking for a hot guy to hook up with, he's right up your alley.  If you're looking for a guy that wants to take you out, keep looking.


Gender:  Straight Man
Status:  Single - Never Been Married
  Age / Ethnicity:  37, Latino / Hispanic
Location:  Phoenix, Arizona
Region:  US-Southwest
Seeking:  Just Looking for Now
Lives:  I Live with More Than One Roommate
Looks:  Distinguished
Hair / Eyes:  Bald / Balding / Brown
Body:  Athletic
Height:  Tall
Smoking:  I Don't Smoke
Drinking:  I Drink Socially / Occasionally
Religion:  Catholic
Education:  Associates Degree
Children:  I Don't Have Children
9:22 am

Have you ever went out on a date with someone you met from an online personals ad and afterwards thought "Did he/she really think I wasn't going to find out what he/she was really like?!".

Have you ever wanted to warn other women or men about these people?

Here is your place to do it!

Share your stories of online dates gone wrong.  Include the personals website where you saw their profile, their screen name, a picture if you have one, and any other info from their profile that you would like to share.  Then tell us what happened.

Did they look totally different than their picture?  Did you find out they were married?  Did you catch them in some other big lie?  Did they start out saying they wanted one thing, when they really wanted something else?  Were they mooches?  Felons?  Let us know!

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